“Pride Promotes Strife”
James 4:1-6
1 Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members?
A. Now it may surprise some of you this morning;
1. But not all Christians are perfect!
2. In fact there’s OFTEN STRIFE w/in the BODY of CHRIST
I think that sometimes we’d like to DENY that wouldn’t we?
I think that sometimes we’d like to PRETEND that STRIFE really doesn’t happen in the body of Christ!
C. Unfortunately, for SOME CHRISTIANS;
1. They’re pretty NAÏVE & WHEN strife DOES HAPPEN…
It really throws them for a LOOP!
Somebody once said:
“If you ever find the perfect church, don’t join it. Because if you do join it, it will no longer be a perfect church!”
E. You see, we’re all sinners saved by GRACE!
1. I still have my OLD NATURE
2. YOU still have YOUR OLD nature
And every once in a while our OLD NATURES MEET! And it’s NOT a PRETTY SIGHT!
If we’re mature, when we come to our senses, we apologize and ask one another’s forgiveness.
If we’re not mature, we hold grudges and don’t forgive. And then we wonder why our relationship with Christ dies?!
When I PRAY, why does it feel like God ISN’T LISTENING to me?
And when I READ my BIBLE, why doesn’t it SPEAK to me?
UNRESOLVED —- WARS and FIGHTS—
Strife IN and AMONG BELIEVERS
ILLUSTRATION:
Many years ago a man was found living on a DESERTED island.
When the captain arrived, he saw 3 huts and so he asked the man:
“Are there any other people here?” To which the man replied, “Nope, just me!” So the captain said, “Well then, why do you have 3 huts?” The man replied, “Oh that’s simple, this is the hut that I LIVE IN; and this hut is where I go to church”. Well, said the captain, that’s great, but what’s the 3rd hut for? “Well” Said the man, “that’s the church I used to go to!”
Strife is really a FELLOWSHIP DESTROYER
And what’s the BASIS for STRIFE/ WAR /FIGHTS?
It’s COVETOUSNESS / ENVYING our PRIDE
It’s the desire to POSSESS that which someone else possesses
All wars and fighting, even globally are based on ENVYING. One person desiring the possessions of another; or to CONTROL them
Warring and fighting with one another in the church is rooted in ENVY:
“I want what you have”
“I want your ministry”
“I want to your family”
“I want your gifts”
So the BATTLES that we ALL FACE, Really take place when we allow ourselves to be GOVERNED by our OLD NATURE
That’s what Paul talks about in ROMANS 7 –
That BATTLE between the NEW and OLD NATURES
When we RECEIVED CHRIST as LORD and SAVIOR; a NEW NATURE was CREATED within us and it is at CONSTANT WAR with the OLD NATURE
And when we YIELD ourselves to our OLD NATURE; we then are GOVERNED by ENVY / LUST / COVETOUSNESS
So then James goes on to say in Verse 2:
2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask.
A. When we are REGULATED by our OLD NATURES;
1. Something INTERESTING takes place….
ODDLY, we discover that we are NEVER SATISFIED!
You can’t HAVE enough POSSESSION
You can’t MAKE enough MONEY
You can’t ENJOY enough ENTERTAINMENT
Because once we get what we are seeking, the THRILL leaves us, and then the SEEKING BEGINS again
Both unbelievers and carnal Christians are much the same in that they are SEEKING…
SEEKING the next FIX
The next FLING
The next PLEASURE
The next EXPERIENCE
But NEVER SATISFIED – As James says here:
“You LUST and you DO NOT HAVE”
We will NEVER be SATISFIED as long as we are REGULATED by our PASSIONS
When we are REGULATED by our LUSTS, we’ll never find satisfaction
And all we WILL FIND is that we are CONSTANTLY FIGHTING with our-
FAMILY; FRIENDS; CHURCH MEMBERS
So the 1st OPTION is to be a SEEKER:
Unsatisfied
Miserable
Discontented
The 2nd option is to become an ASKER
Notice here in the LAST part of VERSE 2
“The ALTERNATIVE to being a SEEKER, is to become an ASKER!”
We need to START ASKING GOD for things and stop being regulated by our LUSTS/ ENVY / covetous hearts
Maybe the 1st thing that we all should ask the LORD for is:
“that He would take away our ENVIOUS hearts. That we’d stop being JEALOUS of one another. When one PROSPERS, don’t COVET, REJOICE!
Now some people will say, “Yeah, well PRAYER DOESN’T WORK!”
To which James responds in Verse 3 -
3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.
A. What’s our MOTIVES for PRAYER?
1. What’s behind our MOTIVES in ASKING?
Here James says that GOD EDITS a LOT of our PRAYERS!
Big RED PEN… NOPE! Not a chance! Not My will
If we are PRAYING according to OUR FLESH, then we Might as well SAVE OUR BREATH!
Jesus said in John 3:
“That which is BORN of the FLESH will always be of the FLESH”
So if it’s MY FLESH prompting my ASKING, then I can be assured that God will NOT FULFILL my request!
EVERY ministry that is BORN OUT OF THE FLESH will NOT SUCCEED!
I believe that we have seen a LOT of ‘MINISTRIES’ born out of the FLESH here at CCB!
People who have BEGUN ministries only to FAIL or DROP them off on my door step to CLEAN UP THE MESS;
Because they were MINISTRIES born out of the FLESH!
They were ministries BORN out of ENVY & STRIFE & they FAILED
Just because we PRAY ABOUT SOMETHING doesn’t make it FROM GOD!
I think that too often we can be in the FLESH, motivated by LUST / EMPTINESS, which prompts us to PRAY that GOD WILL OPEN the DOOR for us to TAKE OVER or START a MINISTRY
And when God doesn’t OPEN the DOOR, too often, people attempt to FORCE the HAND of God, or CLAIM that God ‘LED THEM’ to this
Do you realize that a person can even seek to be in MINISTRY, and be motivated by LUST / GREED / ENVY?
James says in Verse 4
4 Adulterers and adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Whoever therefore wants to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.
Friendship with the world speaks of-
“Friendship with the WORLD SYSTEM; or the world’s way of THINKING – lust; greedy; envious; deceitful; dishonest”
Those are symptoms of the world’s way of dealing with life
And God says, if you are a FRIEND to that kind of thinking, then you have made yourself an enemy of God!
WOW! That’s serious isn’t it?
And all the time, we were just thinking that ‘I’M JUST GETTING AHEAD’
And all we’ve really managed to do it make ourselves an ENEMY of God’s!
Jesus said in -
Matthew 16:26 For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul?
Sometimes the REASON that a person is being CONTROLLED by the LUSTS of their FLESH is because –
They were NEVER REALLY SAVED in the first place
The word ‘ADULTERERS and ADULTERESSES’ , not only has to do with SEXUAL IMMORALITY, but also and maybe even more specific in this instance…has to do with –
—–SPIRITUAL ADULTERY—-
The leaving of one’s 1ST LOVE
Having DEPARTED from the FULFILLMENT of WALKING with Christ
“It used to be enough, JUST TO BE WITH JESUS…anymore, I just can’t find SATISFACTION!
“I guess I’ve become a SEEKER…always SEEKING the NEXT EXPERIENCE; next TOY; next PLEASURE”
“I’ve lost my 1st love with JESUS CHRIST!”
“He used to be ALL I NEED; now I have EVERYTHING and I’m still empty!”
Jesus said in –
Revelation 2:2-5
2 I know your works, your labor, your patience (busy beaver: SERVING; studying; praying), and that you cannot bear those who are evil (hate sin). And you have tested those who say they are apostles and are not, and have found them liars (great discernment);
3 and you have persevered and have patience, and have labored for My name’s sake and have not become weary (when everybody else QUIT serving; you kept on).
4 Nevertheless I have this against you, that you have left your first love.
5 Remember therefore from where you have fallen; repent and do the first works (fall back in love with Christ. It’s NOT about SERVING; it’s about LOVING), or else I will come to you quickly and remove your lampstand from its place–unless you repent.
Those who EMBRACE the WORLD’S SYSTEM, make themselves an ENEMY of God
WHO is James speaking to here??? BELIEVERS!
Believers have the opportunity to make themselves an ENEMY of God’s
Christ’s ANTIDOTE to WORLDLY living was given in –
Matthew 6:19-24
19 “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; 20 but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. 22 “The lamp of the body is the eye. If therefore your eye is good, your whole body will be full of light. 23 But if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in you is darkness, how great is that darkness!
24 “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.
In James 4:5, James says -
5 Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain, “The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously”?
God loves you so much, that He jealously watches over you!
He does NOT want you to GIVE your HEART away to anything else
Think of a person you really love and really desire their attention and affection.
Now think of that person, knowing how much you love and care for them, yet they really don’t place much value on your love
They spend time with other people, doing other things and they’re really missing out on being with you and being loved for who they are
That’s a SMALL illustration of how God feel about you!
He loves you so much, and He jealously yearns for the spirit that He has created within you
Now that’s love!
DON’T THROW PEARLS BEFORE SWINE
Don’t give your love away to another
Love the LORD thy God W/ all thy heart and SOUL and MIND!
When we HUMBLE ourselves and REPENT, James says in verse 6 -
6 But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: “God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.”
GOD GIVES MORE GRACE!!!!
No matter how long you’ve been the PRODIGAL son/daughter
GOD’S GRACE is GREATER than ALL your sin!
What is GRACE?
It’s God BLESSING us when we deserve to be PUNISHED!
MERCY is the WITHHOLDING of JUDGMENT
GRACE is the FAVOR of God in lieu of PUNISHMENT
Maybe you say today:
“Well, I’ve been away from God A LONG TIME… what then?”
All I can say is:
HE GIVES MORE GRACE!
A ‘PROUD’ person sees themselves in the MIRROR and says:
“I see my sin, but I’m not too bad” and they REMAIN as THEY ARE
Where the HUMBLE person says:
“Today, I’ve seen myself in the MIRROR of God’s Word, and I FALL SHORT!”
“I’ve left my 1st love; I’ve become a SEEKER; I’ve stopped ASKING; I’ve become controlled by my passions and I’m ANGRY and at WAR with God and always FIGHTING with my neighbor.”
To the HUMBLE…God grants His GRACE, His MERCY, His LOVE
CONCLUSION:
Where are you at today?
Always looking for the next fix?
Never satisfied?
COME BACK TO JESUS
Come back to YOUR 1ST LOVE!
Have you been committing SPIRITUAL ADULTERY?
Giving away your heart to the things / pleasures of this world?
God loves you, and He wants you back
Maybe you’ve become a FRIEND to the WORLD’S VALUES
Jesus is JUST a part of your LIFE
He no longer DOMINATES your PLANS
He no longer DICTATES your GOALS
Return to Him today
“God gives more grace. Therefore He says: God resists the proud, But He gives grace to the humble”…shall we pray?






